How to Make Introverts More Social in the Workplace

If you're an introvert, have certain social situations left you fearful of chasing after the opportunities you've dreamed about? Then it's time to go MAD. 

Through the MAD program, a job that started with basic finance administration duties led to discovering her hidden talents, sharing her mindfulness practice and pursuing her dreams of living abroad. Find out more about what going MAD can do for you.

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Is Tai Lopez a Scam Artist?

What Knowledge could you get from the Knowledge Society? What could you learn that could bring you Health, Wealth, Love and Happiness?

Tai Lopez has improving these things down to a science, literally. And while I was expecting more tactical business strategies, he ended up talking for 5 hours—half of the time on Cryptos—and then about what type of people you should stay away from.

For anyone wondering if Tai is a scam artist, and why he brought people to a conference in Santa Monica only to talk about narcissism instead of how you can get rich enough to buy your own Lamborghini, then let Tai show you how to read between the lines and connect the Lamborghini and narcissists:  

Are YOU the Narcissist?

I have a friend who was a textbook narcissist, and she would take every chance she had to put me down and steal attention. Once it became clear, we were no longer friends.

But after hearing Tai talk about narcissists for more than two hours, I realized that there were many wolves in my life that I haven’t fought off-yet. Why couldn’t I hold them off? What was the problem? Tai’s answer: YOU.

“The problem is YOU.”

Ouch, the first time he said that the sting lingered. But as he tried to give us the harsh truth to see the wolf that could still be sleeping in all of us, I started to realize why I always made friends with or fell in love with a so-called “wolf”. It’s because of me.

And he said it over and over, “the problem is YOU.” I kept fighting those words, I thought about how far I had come from my childhood, how positive I am today, all the good things that I can do with my talents, but there was something I couldn’t control from my past.

Why Your Trauma is Part of the Problem

When I describe being homeless, and abused as a child, I only speak about it to people that I’m trying to help. I didn’t play the victim card and I didn’t even like talking about the experience because I feared being called trashy. I thought that I was putting the experience behind me and doing the right thing to help other people. Helping them was a way of releasing the burden for good. But when Tai talked about how trauma affects people for 20-30 years, it gave me the same feeling of impending doom that always hovered when I thought I was never good enough; when I was a young dancer, when I was in relationships, and even when I was in board meetings.

I know that as a single mother, my kids might feel more trauma than other kids. They never had their father in their lives, and they never had presents and other shiny things that all the other kids had. Tai even told a story about getting 1 new pair of shoes each year as a kid. That is what me and my kids live each year. My shoes have such bad holes and the soles are coming off. My son got his only good pair of shoes soaked during the only rainy day here in California. All of us only get 1 pair of new shoes after I work massive overtime hours at a company event over the summer. And it was all more trauma and a low sense of self-worth I was giving to my kids.

But it can change. And that is the beauty of the Knowledge Society.

It’s never too late to course correct with the right books, circle of people and by taking action. But first, find out what you need to change with Tai’s quiz.

Here’s how I added up: 11/17/1

11 for ego: I’ve never been overly confident, and I hate being recognized for certain things. I like to be on stage but don’t starve for attention, although a younger version of me did. In my ‘30s, I’m over getting too much attention because I don’t have the time or patience to deal with haters, drama and gossip.

17 for cunning: which I have dialed down a lot, I used to have schemes all the time like the teens from Saved By the Bell, but now I use those skills to my advantage to stay ahead of the competition in my career.

1: Courage: I have no problem speaking my mind, but since 2016, I’ve become less aggressive and way more passive, so when my courage and ruthlessness score is really low, I know there is a gap to fill. I’ve always known that I could be more assertive, but I thought that this passive behavior was just me choosing to pick my battles wisely. But how and what I choose to confront and go after must change so I can always find the win-win solution.

Tai’s Final Words of Wisdom

Mentors. Shocking. Same words he says in so many videos. 

But people need coaches and mentors to help them do things that they can’t do on their own. The whole reason I bought the ticket to that conference was because it was a mentorship conference and I have a group of 53 students that I’m mentoring all year long, and I have to fill my cup of knowledge to help them. So learning from Tai’s mentor, Joel Salatin, with his blessing during the morning session, was why I came to the conference.

But this time Tai took mentorship and put it in our hands by giving us a call to action to form a group; someone to give the group knowledge, gather together between 5-300 people with a common interest, and hold people accountable so they can get results. Does that sound like a scam artist? To me, it was him gathering people together to enjoy the gift of mentorship in a manageable and scalable way.

Now I’m looking for people who want the same thing—to be better creators for page, stage, audio and video, and to make them feel good about their ideas and take action on developing their ideas. If you’re interested, sign up and hold your spot now for accountability and results.

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My Resolution in 2017: Be the Last One Standing

Originally Published January 4th, 2017

While we make and for some of us, already broke our New Year's Resolutions, I couldn't help but make one on January 4th this year, when I found myself the last one standing.

I go to dance classes several times a week. Some people prefer yoga studios, Crossfit boxes or running each day, but I grew up a ballet dancer and as an adult living in Los Angeles, I'm surrounded by great dance studios that teach hip hop classes. 

In my Wednesday night class, there is a fellow classmate that is obviously well trained and a very good, expressive dancer. She is one of the best dancers in the class except she often walks off the floor. When she does this in class, I'm really too busy focusing on my own workout, and for all I know she may need water, have an injury, or pulled a muscle, but when the hollow window between me and the next dancer becomes clear, I know she walked off.

At the end of the class, we film all the 8 counts we learned and the instructor posts it on their social media pages. But this dancer is almost always is chosen for front and center, and today she had a solo. Once the instructor started filming, her graceful arms and perfectly timed counts turned into stiff and rigid movement, so she panicked and she ran off the stage by the 3rd count of 8.

She knows the moves. She dances them beautifully but once she has it in her mind that people are watching, she chokes and runs off.

As a dancer, you finish the song. You stay until the end, you never run off the stage. You could have fallen flat on your face, had a wardrobe malfunction, even Mariah Carey stayed on stage for 6 minutes when her ear piece malfunctioned in Times Square on New Years Eve, but you always stay on stage until the end.

So when the instructor called all of us to do the dance one last time before class was dismissed, I made it a point to make it until the end. While the instructor filmed, I saw people run off, become lost and stop, but I kept going as much as I could, and I was the last one still moving and hit that last count with energy and a fierceness that you get when you lose yourself in the music.

When I walked out  of the studio sweaty, pulling the knotted tie out of my hair, I threw out all my resolutions and added this one last key factor to all the goals I set for myself in 2017: Be The Last One Standing.

Many people will give up. You'll hear all the excuses.

"It's too hard."

"I didn't have time."

"Life Got in the way. Something came up."

"I got busy. Work. School. Kids. Family. My partner."

"I don't have money."

They're all mental excuses. I've made them before. And just like this dancer who had the potential, at some points in life I panicked and ran off stage too.

And for all the women reading this--stay on stage! If you can be the last one standing on stage, you will make it to the next performance. Be the last one standing, have that courage and resilience to keep going no matter what happens and see how far you go in 2017!

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